I work with a bunch of women, seriously. My current career path has me working long hours around a bunch of mothers and grandmothers, easily making up 80% of the people I am around on a daily basis, in meetings with, or working in close quarters to. They have seen me in all of my glory, through my promotions and my wedding and now the birth of child and I can not stress enough how these women, whom I know so well but also know so little, are proud of daddy.
What I learned today about being a father:
Newborn children, especially first borns, are the doorstep into any meaningful conversation. I write this with a smile, because I’ve learned so much more about the people who surround me on a much deeper emotional level. For some, I am their boss, for others co-workers and for others clients, but all these people want nothing to do with me work-wise until they can talk about child.
They want to see pictures, which I now show with honor, and talk about the birthing process and the sleep processes and the nursing. They want to ask about mama, tell me what she’s going through and how I can be more help and then listen as I explain my goals and what I’ve realized being daddy is all about so far (because, they will tell me, there is so much more to learn).
Some cry, others just hug. Today, of all days, more and more people have come to me to for something other than business plans, correspondences or advice. They have come to congratulate, pat me on the back, and tell me how proud they are of me, and I couldn’t feel better about my life.
What I think I know:
It’s all in the pictures. A few days ago I wrote a litte about catching the moments, and I came to the conclusion that those moments are better captured not with the lense but with my own eyes. I still believe this, but through the thousands of pictures I took (seriously, thousands) everyone else is able to get an idea of the moment and ascertain for themselves what they think of baby. It truly is an experience to watch faces light up with joy, to see the disgruntled co-worker (because we all have them) take part in the celebration of a new being, a baby, whom all immediately consider him one of their own. They love his small mouth, his round head, the simplesest expressions that they get from the pictures and especially his big toes! (akwardly large, even the doctor said so)
The point I’m trying to get to, I guess, is that even though I’ve gotten to know these women enough to know something about them through the birth of my son I’ve become closer to them then I could ever have imagined. I have become, in a strange sense, one of the ladies. It is different with other fathers, sure, and this feeling of camaraderie probably changes with time, but for now I’ll take my hugs and I’ll show my pictures, I’ll listen to the wonderful stories of parenthood that people come out of the woodwork to share, and I’ll continue to do my best to raise my son and be the best husband I can be. My family makes daddy proud. With each picture I show and with each smile my little guy brings I’m reminded just how proud I am.