I can’t stand still, sit for a prolonged period of time, or sleep without humming, strumming or some type of swaying. I haven’t noticed the changes, but those around me have called me out on my inability to be still. It all has something to do with child. The side-to-side sway that relaxes him or the quick shake of a leg while sitting on the couch and holding him are
all now imbedded in my subconsciousness and I can’t stop myself from doing them even when he’s not around.
What I learned today about being a father:
Keeping up with daily posts has not been easy! Between the cleaning up after, making meals for, and creating a reassuring atmosphere for my wife (I love you honey!) and trying to care for child where does everyone find the time? The balancing act between being daddy and being daddy 101 and all my other hobbies is difficult. Because now, more than ever, people need me. Daddy’s old way of being isn’t necessarily obsolete, it’s just there is a new way of doing things.
What I think I know:
Learning to live differently, for someone else, began when I first moved in with my wife. My old life of freedom and independence, doing what I wanted to do when I wanted to do it, went out the door the moment we shared keys. It was hard then, but I got used to it, and thrived in it. Being daddy has created another new challenge, a new sway, if you will, on where life is going to take me. Mama still needs me, which is something that hasn’t changed, and noted every time I have to step away from the computer to give her a break (mama break: mamas term for when she needs something, instead of saying, “honey, can you do me a favor,” she now just yells, “mamas break.”, and I respond accordingly).
Being daddy I will learn my balance, but at the beginning we have to choose what’s most important to us. Writing this blog has helped me learn from my mistakes, understand better what mama and baby need, and reminds me that being daddy is the most rewarding person that I can be.
So I put it to you, anyone who may read this, how do you create balance in your life when being daddy or being mommy? Balancing a relationship, career, and personal time is tough; adding in a newborn makes it even tougher. What’s your sway like?
Oops, and mama needs another break. Until next time…